Who Wants to Be a Crab?

Know why you don't have to put a lid on a bucket of crabs you've caught? Because if one them starts to climb out of the bucket, the others reach up and pull it back down.

What a fascinating concept! Have you ever had a "crab" in your life? I know I've had my share! Somebody who does not want to see you succeed in anything--your marriage, your finances, your career, your education, etc. Whatever it is, they are deteremined to keep you in the bucket with them.

Think about and reflect on whether your enviorment, whether it is at work or in your personal life, is like a crab bucket. On a scale from one to ten, rate whether you feel like you are in a crab bucket. If it's a low number (not in a crab bucket), write down what others are doing to support you. Next time you are around that person acknowledge their support. You could also do this by sending a thank-you card, or something of the like. If it's a high number (being in the crab bucket), identify who or what it is that drags you down. Once you've completed your list, generate ideas that will start making a difference in your life. Beware! This may mean removing yourself from certain situations, or surrounding yourself with different, more positive people. Whatever changes need to be made, start small, that way you'll be more likely to stick with them.

Be sure to be honest with yourself. You may find out that YOU'RE the crab. OUCH! It might be that you are stuck in a rut, maybe you get bitter or jealous when someone else around you succeeds. If this is the case, try to identify areas where you are having problems and make a conscious effort to be more positive and supportive to those around you. Positivity is contagious, and, who knows, it may even circle back around to you. Remember, no one wants to be a crab (or live/work in a crab bucket)!

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